“Why don’t you smile more?”

A phenomenon in which the resting face lacks animation and appears to look bitchy at all times, thus leading people to believe a person must be upset, a snob or a bitch.
Comments people with resting bitchface are eternally plagued by:
“What’s wrong? Are you okay?”
“Are you mad?/Sad/Depressed?”
“You know…Before I got to know you personally I thought you would be a snobby bitch.”
“Why don’t you smile more?”
“Why don’t you cheer up?”

How we respond: “I’m fine…honestly.” ” No, nothing is wrong.” “Yes, I’m sure.”

How we want to respond: “IT’S JUST HOW MY FACE LOOKS, YOU ASSHOLES.”

-Urban Dictionary

I have been asked these questions multiple times since middle school and they still keep coming in hot. I am not miserable, I was just born this way. It has built me to the woman I am today.
I have had to tell myself to smile more when I was out with friends or family so they wouldn’t automatically think I was a bitch or sad or just to avoid being asked the same annoying questions. Emotionally, I beat myself up over the way I appeared to people. I didn’t want to be known as I girl who never smiles, or is pissed off all the time. I so badly wanted people to see that I am friendly and happy. Being asked “Why don’t you smile more?” Β or anything having to do with my facial expression 100 or more times would take a toll on anyone. It would get to the point to wanting to say “No, I am not happy! I am fucking sick of getting asked this question!”. I held that one back more than once because that is not who I am. I was not going to let this take over my life.
Throughout college, I noticed that when I drank a smile would appear and there were no more unhappy questions!! I found the cure! After a few years of that, I realized that drinking could not be the solution for my RBF (resting bitch face). Around 2013, RBF, formerly known as bitchy resting face took to the internet and was now identifying what it was and which celebrity has this unfortunate snobby expression. Fortunately, it gave me an answer to all of those questions. I could now let people know that I have resting bitch face when they ask me “why don’t you smile more?”.
Personally, I am now thankful for RBF. It has probably got me out of a whole lot of conversations I did not want to have or be approached by people I did not want to be approached by. People who really know me or have pushed to get to know me, know who I am and that I am happy. That is all that matters.
I wanted this to be my first post to give a background of why I chose this as my Β name for this website.
I love my resting bitch face and so should you! It is sexy πŸ˜‰
The picture of me for this post was captured by one of my roommates in college, Kaitlin Bauld. Check her out in instagram @kaitlinbauldphotography
Leave a comment about your beautiful resting bitch face.

8 thoughts on ““Why don’t you smile more?””

  1. Good for you and I totally love ❀️ you and your bitch face tho I think your face is beautiful not a bitch face 😘😘😘

  2. I love this post so much! I was in middle school when it was first brought to my attention that I looked “bitchy” in the halls. It stuck with me forever because that is not who I am! RBF’s unite! Lol

  3. I love that you used that pic! You are so beautiful and I’m so happy you’re doing this!! Get it girl πŸ’πŸΌπŸ’•

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